I’m about to make the epitome of amateur mistakes when I start this blogpost with the question: when did saying that something is “okay” make it actually okay?
Can I just be one of the many who are realizing that this isn’t the case? Now, I’m aware that my opinion isn’t a popular one, and I’m not asking for a crucifixion. I’d just like to allow myself to be in the minority of popular opinion as a young person—which appears to be becoming increasingly difficult.
Let’s use singer Meghan Trainor as an example of what I’m referencing.
We (and I’m using “we” to reference the general public) idolize Trainor as a symbol of body-positivity. She’s fighting for voluptuous women all over the world, telling people that it’s okay to own those curves. And it is. However, I don’t think that’s what she’s accomplishing.
- “If I was you, I’d wanna be me, too.”
- “There won’t be no stick-figure, silicone Barbie dolls.”
- “I’m bringing booty back. Go ahead and tell them skinny b*****s that,” (but she’s just playing).
These lines are just a few of the most damaging words she speaks in her songs. Damaging because they have a surface of body-positivity, but below that, they’re offensive and hurtful.
It’s incredible to me that she’s confident. That’s good! But saying, “if I was you, I’d wanna be me, too” is like saying, “ah, I love myself soooo much, and you don’t, so just be like me because obviously you’re not good enough.”
Which is the exact opposite of what her song “All About That Bass” was trying to do when she said the second two lines I mentioned. She’s attempting to increase other people’s confidence here—which is better than the previous song when she’s tearing it down. However, what she’s really saying is that only one body type is okay, and it’s hers.
Putting down a particular body type is never going to be an effective way of making others feel better, and it’s counterproductive to what women should be doing—what women say they want to be doing.
Now, I doubt that she’s doing this on purpose. It’s probably just a lack of attention to detail. She wants to have as much attitude as many other pop singers of today do while still writing her own brand of protest music that spreads a message of positivity and self-love, and it just isn’t meshing well.
Now, taking this even further, I’d like to mention that true self-love is taking care of yourself.
I’m not saying that everyone has to be a Health Goddess, but I am saying that people are so much happier when they’re taking care of their bodies through exercising and eating healthy diets. Scientifically, the hormonal balances in your brain change—you will feel better, happier, and more effective, and if you ask me, that’s always a good thing.
Please, though, love yourself regardless. God made us, wove us together to be exactly who we are. Still, we have to stop pretending that everything is okay—because saying something is “fine,” doesn’t make it so.
Ask any woman, I’m sure they’ll agree. We’re famous for using that one. *insert wink here*